Monday, June 15

Say what you need to say.....clear, direct, communication!

My dad was always picking on my youngest son; it was never right, it was never good enough, he wasn't thinking, the list was endless.

One day the light bulb went on for me and I said to my dad, "My son, reminds you of your son, C You are saying (not nicely) all the things you never said to my brother. It doesn't feel good!

In my family, we never addressed an issue directly to another person,(we wouldn't want to hurt their feelings) no, of course not. We would simply talk about them behind their back to the rest of the family, and anyone else who would listen. Very intelligent right? Certainly talking behind someones back still is hurtful and any way, it always got back to the one being talked about, and just like the telephone game, it barely resembled the original complaint as everyone added their own personal twist.

Sometimes we may find we are venting on behalf of another, when it is simply a mirror for us to see ourselves more clearly. Stand up for yourself. Choose YOU in every moment. It may be a bit contrary to what many of us were taught, but I can assure you from my personal life experience, things will change, you will be respected and still loved, probably even more.

PS...personal work, has nothing to do with who or where you live or what job you have, once you begin the journey to knowing you, (believe me, it's not as scary as I thought) not only will your life change for the better, it will ripple down to those around you.

Last thought; You are loved, simply because you are, it's not what you do, or how you perform. Simply that you are made in the likeness and image of the Creator....how could it be any different?

Friday, June 12

Second Question...What would you do if it weren't about money?

Continuing with the last blog, asking myself these two questions truly reveal what the heart and soul long for. So here is my example of the second question I always ask myself.

2. What would you do if it weren't about money?

My example:

If it weren't about money I'd take these 2 classes ($2,000 each).

Well, guess what, God said, "Well, Pati, it's not about money, you can sell your car!" "Are you flippin' kidding me? Sell my car? How in the hell do you expect me to get by without a car? Oh, and by the way...I love my car? Don't you remember, it's the one you gave me a couple of years ago...you're an Indian giver!" God replied, "The one I gave you when you needed a car, now you don't need a car, you're leaving on a vision quest, a car will just be a burden to you, let it go, pass it along."

Well, being the faithful God that he is...he even showed me how to get along without a car! The very next morning after my panty twist of "how do you expect me to get by without a car?"
on my email was a girl I had answered a Craig's list request for a ride from the airport to town. She paid $15 an hour plus gas. It was God, "There, I'll even show you how to get by without a car. You ask others, use public transit, it's a piece of cake!"

People may wonder if I lost all my marbles. But I have decided to spend my money on me and the growth of my soul, living this life to the fullest, after all, it's the only thing we take with us.

I told a friend about the car, we came to an agreement, I signed up for the classes and the Vision Quest, begins!

Now believe me, all this change does not come without it's growth (pain) as well. But it's ok.

So let me ask you again...What would you do if it weren't about money?

Happy trails.....

Depressed, Frustration, Anger, Resentment? Ask yourself 2 Questions!

I find now when I feel anxious or depressed or am resenting someone or something, it is because I am not living my truth, who I am, what I want and need. (Very hard to figure out at times, but that's another story!)

The two questions I ask myself in all situations are simply these:
1. What would you do if you weren't afraid? (What are you afraid of?)
2. What would you do if it weren't about money? (I'll answer in the next blog!)

Ask the questions; feel the reactions; go through in you mind and body, the very worst that would happen if you did the thing you're thinking about.

My examples:

I had a daughter flying with an airline; my other daughter asked me the question, "Mom, how come you're not traveling?" (as it was free for me) "Well, if I'm to be truthful, I think it's because I'm afraid!"
So I had a good talking to myself..."If that's the real reason, you're afraid, then you're going girl!" And I was afraid, I had barely traveled anywhere really, let alone Internationally. I decided to be gentle with myself (something new for me) and go to a place where they spoke English.
What I found out, was that I was NEVER ALONE. There were always angels and divine presence every step of the way! A person traveling on the same bus to the same destination, several countries and languages away; someone who shows up to help you with the machine to buy a train ticket in a different language; an eagle flying overhead reminding me that Spirit is always present!

More recently, feeling like I wanted to take Evolve to Live on tour...I asked myself, "What would you do if you weren't afraid?" I instantly answered, "I'd sell my house, buy a motorhome and travel with Evolve to Live. Next part: "What are you afraid of?" It's the wrong thing, I sell my house and have nothing, gas is too expensive, people with think I'm crazy...etc. You get the picture. Once you go through it all, let yourself feel it, live it...then you're free to move forward.

I'll leave you with this thought:

I don't want to get to the end of my life and realize I lived what someone else thought life was about. Cheers

Wednesday, June 10

Don't take my word for it! Cool shoes come first???

My sister just wrote with the question "Why don't cool shoes come first?" after having received a note from the Universe (tut.com)

Happiness comes first, dear one. Partners, abundance, and cool shoes come later.

Or at least this is how I'd line up my duckies.

Ungawa -
The Universe

Well sweetheart, I would say it's because for a lot of us, cool shoes is happiness.....(the first half of life???) While they are definitely apart of happiness, the real work is the personal, interior work that brings about true happiness, no matter what your shoes (or life)look like!

That being said however: For people like us, it's important that we allow ourselves the pleasure of cool shoes! Because it's in taking care of ourselves that we can begin to experience true happiness on a deeper level. We've spent our lives taking care of; giving up; doing for; everyone but ourselves and heaven forbid....if we did something for ourselves, we'll then the guilt rolled in.

And actually, I don't agree with the last statement...cool shoes never come first.....

I believe the secret to it all........BALANCE! But don't take my word for it....or anyone else's for that matter.....go inside.....what do you say??? That's the only opinion that matters. I love you