Definition of Love from Wayne Dyer

A definition of Love:

The ability and willingness to let those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves, without any insistence that they satisfy you.

How can you reach the point of being able to let others be what they choose without meeting your expectations? Very simple. By loving yourself. By feeling that you are important, worthy and beautiful. Once your recognize just how good you are, you won’t have to have others reinforce your value or values by making their behavior conform to your dictates.

If you’re secure in yourself, you no longer need others to be like you. For one thing, you’re unique. For another, that would rob them of their own uniqueness. And what you love in them are just those traits that make them special and separate.

Self-Worth cannot be verified by others. You are worthy because you say it is so. If you depend on others for your value, then it is other-worth.

Where's Pati?

Since my last blog, I have in fact landed back in Green Valley, Az in another awesome home for the summer. I found myself in a state of depression, again, as tend to happens every time I shift.

My intention was to finish/start, whatever, my latest book, A Year in a Suitcase.

This summer I've been questioning what and where I'm headed and  and so I have put ETL on hiatus. What is it, and where is it going? Whose is my target audience and how do I promote it?

One of my mentors asked me the question, "How do you see yourself living the next 12 months of your life?" I was really glad that he said 12 months, anything longer would have put me comatose. Surprisingly, I instantly knew.

I'd would be willing to take one year and learn things that I seem to be missing to move ETL forward. To do that, I would need a job and stay in one place! Yes, I said, stay in one place!

So I made a list:
1. Work for Canyon Ranch - as a Program Advisor. Learn as much as I can about it all, including sales, phones, communication and how they move their business forward with social media, etc. Why Canyon Ranch? I feel like we're a perfect fit! I am missing some structure and people in my life and so this could fit the bill. Note to self. Just BE. It's the first "job" that I can say I'm totally excited about the possibility of having.
2. Work with Byron (an accomplished Dale Carnegie retiree)
3. Take the course at Dale Carnegie
4. Take Apple classes and learn Youtube and audio and Powerpoint for Tele seminars.

I was that clear, that quick. So, that's what I'm going to do.

If you want to know where I'll be for the next year. Tucson. Downtown or in the burbs? Or, if things get really magical as I know they can be, I'd be in a lovely home housesitting:)

PS. Today a man from WA state ordered my GPS for Living book. Thank you!! Someone is out there:)

ON THE ROAD AGAIN!

I woke up this morning, knowing it's my last day in gorgeous San Diego! What happens....a pit in my stomach, a catch in my breath and a knowing that I'll be making a Shift  again.

It seems silly as I know where I'm going and what I'll be doing, so what's the anxiety about? It's not about the not knowing (which has been part of my journey so far) so what is it?

Don't know...do I care? Should I care? 

What I am grateful for is that wherever I am...is the most beautiful place ever...wherever that is! I guess that is living in the moment. Certainly I've stayed in less than lovely places, but there is always something special about where I am...the places, the people, the animals and situations I encounter.  

So while I do have my panty twisting...still...probably always will...I catch them earlier, allow myself to feel them and then breath through them. Then I come out the other side...sooner!

I left for Phoenix this morning and am sitting at the car dealer, waiting for my car to be serviced, (16,000 miles - 6 months old!) I'll be heading to Green Valley, AZ where I'll spend a day before heading to Mt. Lemmon, AZ. Happy Summer! 

I appreciate and love you..thank you for your support...