Definition of Love from Wayne Dyer

A definition of Love:

The ability and willingness to let those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves, without any insistence that they satisfy you.

How can you reach the point of being able to let others be what they choose without meeting your expectations? Very simple. By loving yourself. By feeling that you are important, worthy and beautiful. Once your recognize just how good you are, you won’t have to have others reinforce your value or values by making their behavior conform to your dictates.

If you’re secure in yourself, you no longer need others to be like you. For one thing, you’re unique. For another, that would rob them of their own uniqueness. And what you love in them are just those traits that make them special and separate.

Self-Worth cannot be verified by others. You are worthy because you say it is so. If you depend on others for your value, then it is other-worth.

Don't take my word for it! Cool shoes come first???

My sister just wrote with the question "Why don't cool shoes come first?" after having received a note from the Universe (tut.com)

Happiness comes first, dear one. Partners, abundance, and cool shoes come later.

Or at least this is how I'd line up my duckies.

Ungawa -
The Universe

Well sweetheart, I would say it's because for a lot of us, cool shoes is happiness.....(the first half of life???) While they are definitely apart of happiness, the real work is the personal, interior work that brings about true happiness, no matter what your shoes (or life)look like!

That being said however: For people like us, it's important that we allow ourselves the pleasure of cool shoes! Because it's in taking care of ourselves that we can begin to experience true happiness on a deeper level. We've spent our lives taking care of; giving up; doing for; everyone but ourselves and heaven forbid....if we did something for ourselves, we'll then the guilt rolled in.

And actually, I don't agree with the last statement...cool shoes never come first.....

I believe the secret to it all........BALANCE! But don't take my word for it....or anyone else's for that matter.....go inside.....what do you say??? That's the only opinion that matters. I love you

Stones....more spiritual support!

My niece is wanting to buy a turquoise stone ring....like anything "real" it comes at a price. To become "real" in life, means to become genuine. Even in the Velveteen Rabbit story, the Skin Horse knew that becoming "real" means "becoming loose and shabby in the joints and having all your hair loved off..." And so it is with anything authentic, including stones, they come at a price, however, while I believe it an investment, more importantly, if you are drawn to a particular stone, I belive that it is also calling you. It is in the Native American Tradition that I first recognized that we are all one, we all inhabit this planet together, from the smallest creepy crawler to the most magnificent stones, along with the creatures in the sea (which was proved with the dolphin and manta ray swim in Hawaii.) The support for us here on earth from the divine is, well, simply humbling.

Let's take a look at what the turquoise stone brings to us.
Turquoise is a most efficient healer, providing solace for the spirit and well-being for the body. Turquoise promote spiritual attunement and enhances communication with the physical and spiritual worlds. Turquoise is a purification stone. It dispels negative energy and clears electromagnetic smog, providing protection against pollutants. It aligns all the chakras. (Energy centers of the body, Mother Earth has them as well.) A promoter of self-realization, it assists creative problem solving and calms the nerves.
Psychologically, Turquoise is a strengthening stone. It dissolves a martyred attitude or self-sabotage. Mentally, Turquoise instills inner calm while remaining alert and aids in creative expression. Emotionally, Turquoise stabilizes mood swings. It stimulates romantic love. Physically, it is an excellent stone for exhaustion, depression or panic attacks. Hmmm sounds like a miracle stone! My dad loved turquoise....he didn't know all this, but he knew that his spirit was drawing him to them.

OK...so if you are drawn to this stone, it's drawn to you...pick it carefully, hold the stone, how does it feel, tune into it, treat it as a friend, a very old wise friend. Wear it with a sense of sacredness and gratitude, carry it close to your heart....So the question now becomes, not should you get one, buy, why wouldn't you get one?
With love and gratitude for all the divine help and inspiration that surrounds us in this life!

"Geologists tell us that there are certain crystals that can come only to their perfect form through a season of great stillness." Sleep with the angels....