WALK AWAY

I have been reading reviews for car dealerships and had to laugh when one customer was displeased with the dealer when they offered them a much higher payment than their budget. Finally after what seemed like hours of negotiations, they walked out. Guess what happened...the dealer came running after them  with a deal that exceeded their expectations. By this time they were so irritated they decided not to buy a car from them. 

Probably most of us have had this kind of experience in our lives. We negotiate, putting our best deal forward and when we're at the end of what we're comfortable with we walk away. The other party either changes their tune, we change ours or it's over.

I'm looking into buying a new car and I was sitting in a car dealer with my daughter recently.  I had just explained to her that I wouldn't be accepting any offer that they gave me, but that I would be walking away. I knew that once I did that and they didn't come after me, then they had given me the best deal that they could. Important information...I now knew what their bottom line was. 

It got me to thinking that's true in all areas of our lives. Most recently I've witnessed it in relationships of clients of mine. Example, One person has had enough and has gotten the courage to set a boundary...walk away. This doesn't mean forever, it simply means that we're given a chance to reevaluate how we are living our lives and if we want to continue on the same path. It's an opportunity for growth on both sides.

So the next time that someone walks away, think of it as a gift that you've been given; a glimpse into what their bottom line is. Perfect information to begin again with. 

TRY - Song by Pink - Where there is desire there is gonna be a flame, where there's a flame someone is bound to get burned. Just because it burns doesn't mean your gonna die, ya gotta get up and try, try! try.

12.12.12

News about - 12.12.12 from Cayelin Castell, Shamanic Astrologer. 

From the Gregorian Calendar perspective we have now reached the last of the triple dates 12.12.12 this century and it falls on the Feast Day for Our Lady of Guadalupe with the Geminids Meteor Shower peaking December 12, 13, 14.

Plus, 12.12.12 the waning Moon is amplifying the magical Behenian star Antares, and Jupiter is with the opposite star Aldebaran very near where the Geminids is taking place...these two stars form a star gate axis of entrance into this realm and ascension from it. The Geminids are happening near the entrance point adding to the magic of this time. (I've done several Energy Treatments these past few days and the Spiritual Doors are definitely open!)

Now this information may seem a bit Greek to most of us, so what does it mean? Well, as I see it, it's just another opportunity to remember the support of Spirit and a reminder to stay awake and present in every moment, noticing things that are happening in our lives, especially the itty bitty things that don't seem like anything. God wants us to know that we are important and supported in every moment, even when things happen that seem overwhelming. 

I was interviewed on the local radio show here this past Monday. (You can listen to it via podcast by going to knco.com) It was done in the lobby of a hotel and the commercial on the television had put up a phone number to contact, 444.4444. I began to smile. I got in my car, the temperature was 44 degrees and the odometer read 44. While this may not seem significant, it was a reminder to me of support from the angels...Big Time! Keep going! You're on the right path!

Remember to ask the question and then watch for answers by being aware of your surroundings. 

Embrace Change: Adventure is Out There! 

HOW TO SURVIVE THE HOLIDAYS WHEN YOUR LIFE NO LONGER LOOKS LIKE THE WALTONS!

You remember the television series the Waltons, about a large family surviving the depression times or the Normal Rockwell paintings of family and the holidays. 

Well, one thing is for certain, life changes. At the very least, the children grow up and leave home. Add to the mix parents die, a spouse dies, siblings and friends move and you may find yourself with a Holiday Celebration that feels foreign or unfamiliar leaving you feeling sad!  What happened? 

As long as we try to cling to the way things used to be and celebrate in a way that feels familiar we may become depressed. 

This year, my family all gathered (the ones in town) at the local pub on Thanksgiving afternoon for a few beers, watch sports and to play pool. I did put in a small turkey early in the morning so that we could all have turkey sandwiches and everyone could take some turkey home. 

An 82 year old friend asked, "You're not going to have a turkey dinner?" I said, "For me, the most important thing is to have fun and cooking a full turkey dinner is not longer fun for me!"

So in order to enjoy the holidays completely, look outside the box of what was always familiar and do something new, something different and exciting!

When life happened, for me, (things were really different), I used to drive to Chico (about an hour and a half away), go to Mass, stop at Starbucks and get the Grandma's Turkey Sandwich with stuffing and cranberry sauce and go to quiet little spot overlooking Lake Oroville and just be. It was lovely. I loved the drive, no one was on the road, no one was at the lake except me and God. 

So start investigating now for Christmas. What sounds like fun? Remember to think about doing something completely different in order to feel the exhilaration of being alive! 

If you like being alone the holidays are a great time for that. I love to drive with no where to go....it's like being on a different planet! No one is out! (Unless you're headed to the city of course!)

Whether you enjoy being alone or being with others do what makes you happy. Either way, do only what brings you JOY! 

Some thoughts: 

1. In town, two restaurants were serving free turkey dinners to anyone who wasn't cooking for themselves, not just homeless or people in need.  Go and eat or go and volunteer! See what's happening for Christmas!

2. Cook at your home and start inviting people who are alone for the holiday.

3. Volunteer for a project that serves the homeless.

4. Go away! Go someplace that makes you smile.

5. Find a church and sing in the Christmas Choir.

6. Sleep all day.

Whatever you do, don't cling to...doing things the way you've always done them. As long as I was doing that, I just felt like a failure and it was in my face....things had changed!